Message to a Defriended Friend

Last week I defriended you.  I realize that most of the time people want to do these things quietly and the defriended party is not notified.  But that didn’t feel quite right to me.  I didn’t like the feeling that you, if you noticed at all, didn’t know why.

This is why ~

I was looking at your page and I noticed that you belong to a group called “Marriage is between a man and a woman…Period.”  I clicked on the link and sure enough it was what I thought it was: a group whose sole purpose is to insure that gay people can’t get married.  A group whose function is to make sure that gay people don’t have the same rights as straight people.  A group fighting righteously for inequality.

For the life of me I will never understand how my marrying the man that I am in love with ~ the man that I have been with for 10 1/2 years, the man I have bought homes with, been to family funerals with, celebrated accomplishments with and struggled through disappointments with ~ affects anyone else’s marriage. If he’s crazy enough to want to marry me, I’m not sure why anyone else cares.

The upshot is this ~  We have the same wants, you and I:  to be happy.  For me this includes marrying my partner of 10 1/2 years and embracing every one of the rights and responsibilities that come with that commitment.

I am in love with him.  He is in love with me.

Anyone who doesn’t wish to celebrate that wonderful and rare gift with us doesn’t have a place in my life.

Sincerely, Ian